Beginner sex toy

Choosing your first sex toy can seem complicated when you’re discovering vibrations, external stimulators, and all the features. I prefer to start with a simple question: what sensations would you like to explore? I’ve put together a selection of models at different price points to help you find one that’s right for you.

In short: to get started, choose a sex toy that’s easy to use, with dimensions that suit you and a type of stimulation that appeals to you. A high price or lots of modes don’t guarantee a better first purchase.

Which sex toy should you choose to get started?

Five things to check before buying

Stimulation

Vibration, air-pulse stimulation, external or internal use: start by choosing what appeals to you instead of looking for a device that can do everything.

Dimensions

Check the length and diameter when relevant. A photo can make a sex toy look smaller or larger than it is.

Controls

Simple buttons and several intensity levels can make exploring more enjoyable. Compare the settings shown on the product page.

Material

Check the materials listed and the manufacturer’s care recommendations. For a silicone accessory, a water-based lubricant is often a practical choice, subject to the instructions.

Budget

You don’t need the most expensive model to get started. First, compare the features that are actually useful to you.

My tips for your first time

Read the instructions, take your time, and start with the gentlest setting. Stop if a sensation becomes unpleasant. For care, also check out my sex toy cleaners and always follow the instructions for your model.

And if you’re still unsure?

You can contact me with two or three options: I’ll help you compare them without jargon or pressure. L's not about checking every box, but finding your first sex toy that you’re really excited about. 💜