For Two

What is a couples’ sex toy?

A couples’ sex toy is an intimate accessory designed to be used together, whether during foreplay, penetration, or erotic play. Unlike solo sex toys that target one specific area, couples’ accessories stimulate both partners simultaneously—or allow one partner to control the other’s pleasure.

Couples’ vibrators to wear during intercourse, strap-ons for switching roles, erotic games to break out of your routine, discovery sets for exploring together: the world of shared pleasure is far broader than you might imagine. After more than ten years in the shop, I’ve noticed that couples who dare to take the plunge always come back—the couples’ sex toy becomes a go-to, not a one-off experience.

Categories of couples’ sex toys

Couples’ vibrators and connected sex toys

Couples’ vibrators are worn during intercourse and simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and penis (or the G-spot and perineum, depending on the model). Some can be controlled via an app—ideal for long-distance couples or for letting your partner take control. Connected sex toys let you create customized vibration patterns and synchronize pleasure in real time. This is the category I recommend first to couples who are just starting out: intuitive, unintimidating, and immediately effective.

Strap-ons and shared penetration

A strap-on lets you switch roles or explore penetration in female/female couples. Adjustable harnesses, interchangeable dildos, internal stimulation for the wearer on certain models—the configurations are numerous. It’s an accessory that can help break down a lot of taboos when chosen carefully. My complete strap-on guide will help you find the right size and harness.

Double-ended dildos and simultaneous stimulation

Double-ended dildos offer simultaneous penetration for both partners—vaginal/vaginal, vaginal/anal, or however you like. Some models include vibrations, while others use flexibility to adapt to every position. It’s a classic shared-pleasure option that requires no technology.

Erotic games and playful exploration

Erotic games turn the evening into an erotic playground. Challenge cards, position dice, sensual board games, foreplay games: each format offers a different scenario to break out of your routine. They’re often the best introduction for couples who aren’t ready to try a sex toy yet—the game creates a playful setting and makes exploration feel more relaxed.

Couples’ sets and discovery kits

Couples’ sets bring several accessories together around a theme: discovery, soft BDSM, sensual well-being, massage, and stimulation. They offer excellent value for the experience and let you try out several different worlds in a single evening. In the shop, they’re the most requested couples’ gift—and the one that generates the most enthusiastic feedback.

How to choose a couples’ sex toy

Decide what you’re looking for together

The first step is identifying your shared goal: intensifying your existing sex life, exploring new practices, or simply adding playfulness and surprise. A couple looking to spice up foreplay won’t choose the same accessory as a couple wanting to explore pegging or prostate stimulation. Discussing it together before buying helps avoid disappointment and turns the choice into a bonding experience.

Match your choice to your level of experience

For beginners, I recommend a couples’ vibrator or a discovery set—accessible formats that require no expertise. More experienced couples can choose a strap-on, remote-controlled sex toys for power play, or soft BDSM accessories to explore gentle domination.

Consider practicality and hygiene

A couples’ sex toy should be easy to use together—no complicated assembly in the heat of the moment. Choose medical-grade silicone (hypoallergenic and easy to clean), USB rechargeable models (no batteries to hunt down), and a discreet noise level if privacy matters. For care, a suitable sex toy cleaner and a lubricant compatible with the material are essential.

My advice after 10 years in the shop

The most effective couples’ sex toy is the one you chose together. It’s not about technology or price—it’s about connection. Couples who shop together, talk about it, and laugh while exploring the options are the ones who come back most often. Shared pleasure begins well before you use the toy.

What I also notice is that many couples start with a game or a set, then naturally move toward more targeted accessories—connected vibrators, strap-ons, BDSM accessories. The important thing is to respect each person’s pace and never force a step. A sex toy isn’t a test—it’s a tool for pleasure and connection.

If you’re unsure what to choose, check out my sex toy guide for an overview, or explore the subcategories below directly—each page details the options along with my practical recommendations.

Which lubricant should you use with a couples’ sex toy?

Your choice of lubricant depends on the accessory’s material. With a silicone sex toy—the majority of my selection—use only a water-based lubricant. Silicone on silicone damages the surface and can make the sex toy porous, compromising hygiene. For glass or metal sex toys, you can use any type of lubricant—water-based, silicone-based, or hybrid.

In practice, I recommend keeping a neutral lubricant close at hand every time you use a toy. It’s a simple habit that transforms the experience: less friction, more glide, and more sensations. Check out my lubricant guide to choose the right formula for your preferences.

Explore further

• Couples’ vibrators — simultaneous stimulation during intercourse
• Strap-ons — shared penetration and role-play
• Erotic games — cards, dice, challenges, and foreplay
• Couples’ sets — discover multiple worlds
• 21 role-play ideas — inspiration for your evenings