Strap-on dildo

The strap-on (or strap-on) combines a dildo with a harness that fastens around the hips. It allows one partner to penetrate the other without a biological penis — a practice called pegging when a woman penetrates a man. It is a couples' accessory that opens up unique dimensions of play, connection, and exploration.

In summary: the strap-on combines a dildo (usually made of silicone) with a harness worn around the hips. Used by all types of couples — heterosexual, lesbian, and gay. It enables vaginal or anal penetration by the partner wearing the harness. Pegging (a woman penetrating a man) is growing rapidly. Body-safe silicone is recommended, along with an adjustable harness.

In our store, the strap-on has gone from a niche product to an accessible and increasingly popular category in 10 years. Heterosexual couples exploring pegging now represent a large share of demand — it is a practice that requires communication and trust, but offers experiences that nothing else can replicate.

Strap-on: the components

How to choose your strap-on

The harness

The harness should be adjustable, comfortable to wear for several hours, and hold the dildo securely. Neoprene models are soft and hypoallergenic. Leather offers a more aesthetic look but requires specific care. O-ring systems make it easy to change dildos — it is the most versatile system.

The dildo

To start, choose a silicone dildo of moderate size (3–4 cm in diameter). If it is for anal use, make sure the size is suitable for the receiving partner. Realistic dildos, fantasy dildos, or classic dildos are compatible with O-ring harnesses as long as the base is suitable.

Size according to use

For pegging (anal use), start small — a maximum diameter of 3 cm for a first dildo. The anus does not have the same elasticity as the vagina. For lesbian sex (vaginal use), sizes can vary more depending on preferences.

Complementary accessories

An anal lubricant (for pegging) or water-based lubricant (for vaginal use) is essential. Use a sex toy cleaner for hygiene after each use.

Pegging: communication and preparation

Pegging requires communication, trust, and preparation. Here are the tips I give in the shop to couples who are getting started:

• Talk about it beforehand. It's an act that involves reversing roles — discuss your expectations, boundaries, and desires.
• Start small. A small anal plug to prepare the area before moving on to a strap-on dildo.
• Use plenty of anal lubricant. Much more than for vaginal penetration.
• Slow and gentle movements. Especially the first few times.
• Read the guide. The strap-on dildo: complete guide covers the practice in detail.

The benefits of pegging

For the woman doing the penetrating: an experience of control and power that many describe as transformative. For the man receiving: intense prostate stimulation that can produce orgasms with a different intensity from what he knows. For the couple: a role reversal that often strengthens connection and trust. The article prostate and pleasure explores the prostate-focused dimension of the practice.

My experience with strap-on dildos in the shop

In 10 years, I've seen strap-on dildos go from a heavy taboo to a much more relaxed conversation. Heterosexual couples who come in for pegging are often surprised by how naturally I approach the subject — and relieved. My role is to take the pressure off, provide information, and guide them towards the right equipment. Couples who take the time to choose their first kit carefully and respect gradual progression almost always come back delighted with the experience.

Common mistakes

• Choosing a dildo that's too large to start. Start small — pegging requires patience.
• Forgetting the anal lubricant. Essential, and use plenty for anal play.
• Not preparing the area. Progression plugs before using a strap-on dildo.
• Underestimating the harness. An uncomfortable harness ruins the experience. Invest in a good adjustable model.
• Don't skip communication. Pegging is an act of trust — talk to each other before, during, and after.

Care and hygiene

Clean the dildo with a cleaner after each use. Wash the harness according to its material. Dry everything completely before storing it. The anal sex guide and the intimate hygiene guide explain the protocols in detail.

Leading strap-on brands

Several specialized brands offer complete kits (harness + dildos). Fun Factory offers medical-grade silicone dildos that are perfectly compatible with O-ring harnesses. For harnesses, look for models with good adjustability and a ring compatible with multiple dildo sizes. Avoid low-end kits made with poor-quality silicone—a good strap-on is an investment that lasts for years.

My recommended path for discovering pegging

Here is the gradual path I recommend for interested couples. Step 1: have an open conversation about the idea, desires, and boundaries. Step 2: prepare the anal area with a small plug for a few weeks—this helps the sphincter get used to it. Step 3: try a strap-on with a moderate-sized dildo (3 cm), plenty of anal lubricant, and a face-to-face position to make communication easier. Step 4: experiment with positions, rhythms, and sizes. Take as much time as needed at each step—there's no need to rush. The complete guide to strap-ons covers the entire process.

Pegging without the pressure

Pegging touches on questions of masculinity and identity that can be emotionally charged. In the boutique, I always remind customers: enjoying prostate stimulation has nothing to do with sexual orientation. The prostate is an organ—all men have one, and stimulating it can produce pleasure regardless of orientation. Straight couples who explore pegging do it for pleasure—that's all, and that's enough.

Going further

The complete guide to strap-ons is the most comprehensive resource on the subject. Explore dildos, plugs, and prostate stimulators to understand anal foreplay. The article prostate and pleasure explores prostate stimulation. This collection is part of the For couples universe.